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When your partner is depressed
Nobody is 100% protected from the depression. Yes, this mental illness is quite precarious, but it is especially dangerous in the family. This is mainly because depression makes suffer not only one person, but every member of the family too. It is a statistically proven fact, that on in ten human beings suffers from depression regularly; what is more, 60% of these are women. So, the question is: what to do if your spouse is depressed? Let's try to deal with this problem and try to find the solution in our article.
First of all, you should think about your kids. Children usually feel such things and, there are no doubts about that, they worry about situation in the family. Kids may guess you are going to divorce, so try telling them everything is all-right and there is nothing to worry about. What is more, some children may believe it is their fault that mom or daddy is suffering from a strange mental illness, so try assuring them they have nothing in common with the reason of your spouse's depression. Only after you make sure you've taken care about your kids, you should proceed to next step.
The next step should NEVER include your efforts to fix your partner's mental health. It was not your fault that he/she felt depressed, that's why the best and, probably, the only way out would be seeking specialist's help. In this stage you should do your best in encouraging your partner for visiting the specialist. Try telling him/her that it would be better for you and kids, if he visited a doctor.
Although we've already written that you should never try to solve this problem with your own methods, there still are several VERY dangerous things you should NEVER say to you depressed spouse. For example, phrases like "I know how you feelâ? will never bring a positive effect; instead of that such phrases will only worsen his/her situation and feelings. One more "incorrectâ? phrase would sound like "if you have a will, you will snap out of it!â?; this will only be able to decrease his morale even more.
In conclusion, we would like to emphasize it once again, that you should never try to solve this problem, but leave it to the competent specialist. In this situation you can (and should) only take care about yourself, your kids and of course your partner's decision to visit the doctor.
First of all, you should think about your kids. Children usually feel such things and, there are no doubts about that, they worry about situation in the family. Kids may guess you are going to divorce, so try telling them everything is all-right and there is nothing to worry about. What is more, some children may believe it is their fault that mom or daddy is suffering from a strange mental illness, so try assuring them they have nothing in common with the reason of your spouse's depression. Only after you make sure you've taken care about your kids, you should proceed to next step.
The next step should NEVER include your efforts to fix your partner's mental health. It was not your fault that he/she felt depressed, that's why the best and, probably, the only way out would be seeking specialist's help. In this stage you should do your best in encouraging your partner for visiting the specialist. Try telling him/her that it would be better for you and kids, if he visited a doctor.
Although we've already written that you should never try to solve this problem with your own methods, there still are several VERY dangerous things you should NEVER say to you depressed spouse. For example, phrases like "I know how you feelâ? will never bring a positive effect; instead of that such phrases will only worsen his/her situation and feelings. One more "incorrectâ? phrase would sound like "if you have a will, you will snap out of it!â?; this will only be able to decrease his morale even more.
In conclusion, we would like to emphasize it once again, that you should never try to solve this problem, but leave it to the competent specialist. In this situation you can (and should) only take care about yourself, your kids and of course your partner's decision to visit the doctor.
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