My boyfriend's mother drives me crazy!
It is an often-to-meet situation nowadays, when a mother doesn't want you and your boyfriend to be together. Sometimes this isn't because she finds you totally unapt for her child, but because she thinks you can take him away from her. What to do in this difficult situation? What steps should be taken and which should be avoided? Let's try to dwell upon this problem in this article; this might be useful for solving your problem.
First of all, we should find the reasons of such behavior of your boyfriend's mother. In most cases, it is mother instinct to blame. Such painful situations DO happen quite often, because mothers think that girls want to take children away from them! Sounds quite silly, but that is true. If you are stuck in a similar situation, try reading following advices.
Try evaluating your situation and finding your mistakes. If only you are sure you are doing nothing wrong, proceed with further advices. If no â start changing your own behavior!
Talk to you boyfriend seriously. It is his responsibility to talk to his mother and find out what is wrong. Although we already know what it is all about (remember mother instinct), this talking could make his mother change her view angle. Your boyfriend HAS to tell his mother what is wrong and that he will not tolerate such her behavior. As practice says, this step has the biggest possibility of solving the whole problem successfully.
Help with his mom personally. Try to insure her that she is not going to lose her son and that you will take care about it. It would be also a good decision to tell her how much do you like your boyfriend's family (even if you don't), including her. This is also a possible way out, so don't be afraid of a straight conversation.
In case nothing helps, try changing your tactics. We don't advice you to ignore his mom completely, but try to avoid meeting her and simply divide your boyfriend's time between you and his family (of course, if this can satisfy your needs). Remember, that the time is a great doctor and, after several weeks or months, his mom will see nothing bad happening and change her opinion.
To sum everything up, we would like to advice you to have a strong resource of courage, strengths and, of course, iron nerves. Although we have no doubts that the situation will change someday, you are going to need all this qualities in order to change his mother's mind. Good luck!