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How to find out if he or she would be great for marriage?
If you really think the time has come and you are in need of getting married, you will probably start searching the right person. This search is nothing special and, in the majority of cases, it consists of dating. In this article we would like to give you several advices, which could help you in finding the right person and an almost ideal future-spouse. The main advice, which you should always keep in mind: before making conclusions about any person, ask yourself five questions about him or her. If all answers are positive, you can congratulate yourself and start getting prepared to the marriage!
1)Are your and you partner's life purposes similar? This is tremendously important, because you are going to spend your life with your spouse and both of you must have something special, which would tie you together. In case there is nothing to bind you together, you will "grow apartâ?, as psychologists say. This means you will have different interests, different life purposes and, what is more important, different view angles on your family. If two people do not have this glue, which would keep them close to each other, there would be not many chances of having a happy and healthy family.
2)Do I feel safe with this person? We don't mean physical safety, but the question of secure sharing of ideas and feelings. If you feel trust towards him or her, if you feel yourself free to share even the most intimate feelings with that person, you can start thinking about marrying him or her. If you feel no trust, you should think twice before making further actions.
3)Is he/she a good sport? Remember: you are going to choose a person, who would be together with you for the rest of your life. Only if you are sure he or she is a good representative of the mankind, you could take further steps. Even if you know, that your partner has several important advantages, but at the same time he or she is far away from your ideal â think carefully before taking the decision!
4)Does his/her attitude towards other people satisfy you? This is a critical point, because your relations with that person will be built upon several factors, and one of the most important of those is public relations. If you feel that your partner treats other people the same way you do â it's a big advantage and a really good sign
5)Is there anything you would like to change about him/her? The main problem is that, in fact, you will rarely be able to change something! People get married only with years of experience behind their shoulders and it is tremendously hard to teach them with something new and change their habits. So, if you see many drawbacks, but think you'll be able to change them â don't be too optimistic and try to evaluate your situation in a realistic way.
1)Are your and you partner's life purposes similar? This is tremendously important, because you are going to spend your life with your spouse and both of you must have something special, which would tie you together. In case there is nothing to bind you together, you will "grow apartâ?, as psychologists say. This means you will have different interests, different life purposes and, what is more important, different view angles on your family. If two people do not have this glue, which would keep them close to each other, there would be not many chances of having a happy and healthy family.
2)Do I feel safe with this person? We don't mean physical safety, but the question of secure sharing of ideas and feelings. If you feel trust towards him or her, if you feel yourself free to share even the most intimate feelings with that person, you can start thinking about marrying him or her. If you feel no trust, you should think twice before making further actions.
3)Is he/she a good sport? Remember: you are going to choose a person, who would be together with you for the rest of your life. Only if you are sure he or she is a good representative of the mankind, you could take further steps. Even if you know, that your partner has several important advantages, but at the same time he or she is far away from your ideal â think carefully before taking the decision!
4)Does his/her attitude towards other people satisfy you? This is a critical point, because your relations with that person will be built upon several factors, and one of the most important of those is public relations. If you feel that your partner treats other people the same way you do â it's a big advantage and a really good sign
5)Is there anything you would like to change about him/her? The main problem is that, in fact, you will rarely be able to change something! People get married only with years of experience behind their shoulders and it is tremendously hard to teach them with something new and change their habits. So, if you see many drawbacks, but think you'll be able to change them â don't be too optimistic and try to evaluate your situation in a realistic way.
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