How to Happily Survive Marriage to a Russian Woman
Breaking up
Sometimes things change, and you may feel the time to break up has come. If you feel there is no way back and breaking up is necessary, we offer you several advices that can turn this extremely painful procedure into something easier.
1) You can start your break-up with getting your personal things back. It's recommendable to complete this stage in a short period of time. It would be better for you and your partner if you would take all your personal items at once (putting them into an easy-to-move box would be a good decision). This is necessary, because in case of complicated procedure it could save your nerves and time.
2) Don't ask your friends or colleagues or friends for help. It's better not to involve them into this procedure, because it's yours and your partner's conflict and adding other people into it would only make this much more complicated.
3) It would be a good decision to invite your partner to some kind of quite place (like café) and talk about your relationships there. If you are afraid of scenes, simply try not to provoke your lover by starting to blame him or her.
4) Try not to allow your anger get control over you. Don't blame your lover and don't strive make him or her feel guilty. The main point is that the time has come, and there's no need in hurting someone except you.
5) Do it as soon as possible. Waiting for right moment has its own advantages, but it will definitely not help you to feel better in this period of time.
6) "As soon as possibleâ? doesn't mean breaking up on special dates, like Saint Valentine's Day or Christmas. This will not only spoil this particular day, but will also destroy sweet reminiscences. This isn't the main aim of your actions, is it?
7) If you must say something bad about your relations, do it in a quick manner. Prolonging this procedure could be harmful and really painful for both of you. Try to stay clear, specific and close to the point.
8) Break up at once. There is absolutely no need in dividing this painful procedure in stages and completing them from time to time. Remember: breaking up will definitely cause no sweet remembrances; that's why you should shorten it as much as possible. It's better to get rid of old rubbish at once, than throwing it out piece by piece.
9) If you feel there is no need in promising warm feelings or staying friends in future, simply don't do this! Why should you partner have false hopes about his or her future? Even if you try to respect your lover's feelings, try to follow this advice â it really helps after some time!
These nine advices can really help you to break up with your lover and make this procedure less painful.
1) You can start your break-up with getting your personal things back. It's recommendable to complete this stage in a short period of time. It would be better for you and your partner if you would take all your personal items at once (putting them into an easy-to-move box would be a good decision). This is necessary, because in case of complicated procedure it could save your nerves and time.
2) Don't ask your friends or colleagues or friends for help. It's better not to involve them into this procedure, because it's yours and your partner's conflict and adding other people into it would only make this much more complicated.
3) It would be a good decision to invite your partner to some kind of quite place (like café) and talk about your relationships there. If you are afraid of scenes, simply try not to provoke your lover by starting to blame him or her.
4) Try not to allow your anger get control over you. Don't blame your lover and don't strive make him or her feel guilty. The main point is that the time has come, and there's no need in hurting someone except you.
5) Do it as soon as possible. Waiting for right moment has its own advantages, but it will definitely not help you to feel better in this period of time.
6) "As soon as possibleâ? doesn't mean breaking up on special dates, like Saint Valentine's Day or Christmas. This will not only spoil this particular day, but will also destroy sweet reminiscences. This isn't the main aim of your actions, is it?
7) If you must say something bad about your relations, do it in a quick manner. Prolonging this procedure could be harmful and really painful for both of you. Try to stay clear, specific and close to the point.
8) Break up at once. There is absolutely no need in dividing this painful procedure in stages and completing them from time to time. Remember: breaking up will definitely cause no sweet remembrances; that's why you should shorten it as much as possible. It's better to get rid of old rubbish at once, than throwing it out piece by piece.
9) If you feel there is no need in promising warm feelings or staying friends in future, simply don't do this! Why should you partner have false hopes about his or her future? Even if you try to respect your lover's feelings, try to follow this advice â it really helps after some time!
These nine advices can really help you to break up with your lover and make this procedure less painful.
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